We often hear about single women adopting, but what about single men?
According to a report from Bob McClay of KTAR radio, the number of single men who are adopting children more than doubled between 1998 and 2005.
Single men account for 3 percent of all adoptions from foster care.
Source: KTAR.com
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The reason why single mothers should not raise boys.
This may sound a little misogynistic, but it’s the hard truth!!!!!
This is a lesson I learned in Swaziland, when I was working in a group home with four boys and four girls. So why do so many little boys in their single mother’s care grow up to be deadbeat dads? Because their father is a deadbeat!!! It’s a cycle that spirials onward and onward. The boys grow up with their mother and their father is nowhere in sight, they age out thinking it’s acceptable to get laid out of wedlock and let their partner bear the burden of raising THEIR child. And the pattern goes on and on and on…
Here’s the kicker, let’s say I were to go to an adoption agency asking for one boy and one girl. You know what their gonna tell me? They’ll say, “You can have the boy, but we don’t put female children with single adoptive men.” Yes, it’s sad that there’s so many child molesters in this world, but you know what, it’s neither MY problem NOR any adoptive father’s problem (unless they make it their problem by abusing their adopted child). Not only that, they’ll say “It’s not appropriate for unmarried men to be raising young girls themselves”. Au contraire, it’s quite the opposite. It’s quite funny to think that any single woman (divorced or otherwise) can make a man out of her sons. If she was raised with many brothers as a child, then maybe she could, but in most cases she couldn’t. Just about any parent, mother or father, would tell you that raising girls is easier than raising boys in many ways. Any average parent can raise girls to women, boys however don’t become real men without their father or other male role-model in their life that they can trust. I was only the 2nd oldest child with only four sisters in my life, I could raise all the girls (and boys) I wanted to with or without a wife!!!
So next time there’s a divorce hearing in session regarding the placement of the sons and daughters, JUST GIVE UP ON THIS DELUSION THAT THE MOTHER IS MORE FAVORABLE!!!! Put the daughters with their mother, but PUT THE SONS WITH THEIR FATHER!!! If single men can’t adopt little girls then PLEASE, don’t allow any single women to adopt little boys, because THEY CANNOT MAKE MEN OUT OF THEM!!! They’ll grow up bound for the slammer with many sex partners and children that they can’t keep up with.
“IF THERE’S NO MAN IN THE HOUSE, REMOVE THE BOYS FROM THE HOUSE!!!!”
I cannot believe what Simba222 wrote. He needs to get with the times, not to mention the research. Research actually shows that boys raised by single adoptive mothers retain all their “boy characteristics” (such as, the rough-housing nature, curiosity and typical boy interests that all boys have), while becoming better-rounded, more compassionate, and more thoughtful than boys raised in two-parent homes or by single men. Read the book “Raising Boys Without Men” by Peggy Drexler. It discusses the research behind this topic.
Simba222, the reason that you would be turned down for adoption would be due to your biased attitude and not your gender.