By: Double Bass String

Double Bass String — Thu, 27 May 2010 08:01:51 +0000

I dont truly know what you talking about here. This cant be the only way to think about this can it? It seems like you understand a great deal, so why not explore it more? Make it more accessible to everyone else who may not concur with you? Youd get a lot a lot more people behind this should you just stopped making common statements.

By: Kim

Kim — Thu, 01 Mar 2007 15:53:17 +0000

After going through the entire adoption process and now that it is has been a month since my son’s birth and placement with us, I have a more experienced and enlightened picture then I did before. I would have totally agreed with the Evan D. Donaldson Institute’s reccomendation before of the states having legally enforceable post-adoption agreements until I became more informed, was an actual parent, and truly realized that adoption is about the child and not the birthparents and adoptive parents. One of the problems with legally enforceable post-adoption agreements is that prospective adoptive parents really don’t have enough information about the birthparents before placement of the child to make an informed educated decision about what to agree to in a post-adoption agreement. There is a lot more information required to be obtained on prospective adoptive parents. Prospective adoptive parents have to go through a physical exam, and psychiatric assesment. Prospective adoptive parents have a local, state, and federal FBI criminal background checks done on them at required intervals. Prospective adoptive parents have the physicality of their home, property, and neighborhood scrutinized. Prospective adoptive parents have to get references. There is more, but I will stop as you get the picture of the amount information collected on prospective adoptive parents and their immediate family before they can adopt domestically. On the other hand, due to HIPPA and professional client confidentiality you can not obtain information about birthparents, even sometimes with a release from the birthparents, to make an informed educated decision about post-adoption agreement issues like physical visitation for example. I strongly believe that adoptive parents should keep some contact with birth parents to ensure birthparents for their peace of minds that their child is doing well and happy and for the adoptee to have a sense of roots and history. With our son’s birthparents we e-mail them letters and pictures. And we send them letters, cards, pictures, and baby videos through the regular mail. We talk weekly on the phone and are developing a growing friendship. Yet, legally enforceable post-adoption agreements prevent children’s parents from changing the relationship when new information comes up about the birth parents that affect the welfare of the child or the adoptee is old enough to vocalize what type of relationship they want with their birthparents. In our case for example, we discovered a prior history of child abuse and babies put in foster care from birth, when the police and child protective services came to hospital and said there was a police hold on our son as well. With that information, despite our growing friendship with the birthparents, we can’t expand the post-adoption agreement to physical visitation at this time for now.

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By: Double Bass String

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