A reader named Ron – who’s a new adoptive grandpa – writes:
My daughter and her husband have adopted an African American baby. My wife and I are both elated to have a grand-daughter. We want to do the right things so she, as an African American will be fine being adopted by a Caucasian family. We love her dearly but love may not take care of everything.
Can you suggest any books or organizations that positively deal with this family structure?
My reply:
Ron, it’s great that you are so conscientious and supportive of your daughter and her husband’s new family structure.
- I recommend visiting Bridge Communications. Michelle Hughes is an expert at helping multiracial adoptive families. When I met her at the Ours Through Adoption Conference in Green Bay, WI this spring, she said, “I teach white parents how to raise black children.” That’s putting it bluntly, but it describes what Michelle does.
- My book, The Adoption Decision, includes a chapter about transracial adoption, with stories from new adoptive families who are experiencing the challenges and joys. The chapter also mentions several resources for helping families work through transracial adoption.
- One of my favorite books about transracial adoption is Black Baby, White Hands, a memoir by Jaiya John.
My Adoption Bookstore (from Amazon) lists many other adoption books I’ve read and enjoyed.
Readers, how about you? What resources, books, or organizations about trans-racial adoption have you found helpful?
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PACT,and anti-racial parent site are good sources as well
I am adult transracial adoptee who is the product of a successful adoption. I would be more than willing to answer any question anyone may have on transracial adoption.
The fact that the grandparents realize the need for cultural support puts them ahead of the curve. I am a living example that transracial adoption can be very successful if done the right way.
Hi, I am black and was adopted by an all white family at the age of 18 months old. Conditions developed in my adoptive parents marriage. Which put my adoptive Mother and I in position where we had to rely on my adoptive grandparent’s. As a result of this I became very close to them and they became a very significant part of my life. If you are interested in my story please E-mail me at. luminouspubs@sbcglobal.net