This week at my Christian Adoption blog on adoption.com, I posted two articles about what happens when you tell people you’re adopting.
Here’s a preview of each post:
The Importance of Sharing Your Adoption Story – On Mother’s Day, our oldest niece graduated from college. At her post-graduation family barbeque, my husband and I sat down with an aunt and uncle from the other side of our niece’s family. They are adopting two children from Russia and returned two weeks ago from their first trip to Russia, where they met their children.
As we chatted, something very important was reinforced to me: When parents-to-be announce they’re adopting, most people don’t know what to say. So they mumble something like, “You’re adopting! Oh, how nice.”
How to Respond to Nosy Questions About Adoption –
- Are your children siblings?
- What do you know about their background?
- As soon as you adopt, you’ll get pregnant with your own.
- Which one of you is sterile?
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Do people really ask nosy questions like that? That last one is terrible! It kind of steals the joy from the whole adoption process, doesn’t it? How awful. Your article about their response was good.
Camy
Not so long ago, my parents met someone they haven’t seen for a while, it was in a supermarket. As usual, they exchanged the latest developments in life. At the question if they already had grandchildren, my parents answered: ‘Not yet, but in a while our son will have a child from China, he is adopting.’
The person just looked at them with big eyes and said absolutley nothing. She didn’t know what to say, so she said nothing and just stared. Heheh, maybe she’s still standing there, wondering what to say!