Consider Options for Building Your Family: Create a Flow Chart

May 3, 2010

RESOLVE (, The National Infertility Association, recommends that people assess their fertility diagnosis and treatment options by creating a “decision tree.” I recommend the decision tree as a handy tool for those considering family building through birth or adoption. A decision tree is essentially a flow chart. Here’s how to create one: Write your primary […]

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Why It’s Important to Use Respectful Adoption Language

April 26, 2010

In a column about sex education in my local newspaper, the reporter wrote that high school kids in a local school district who get pregnant “are taught to keep the baby or put it up for adoption.” Call me hyersensitive, but I cringe when I see the phrases, “keep the baby,” and “put up for […]

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How Much Would You Pay to Get Pregnant?

April 20, 2010

For the one in six couples blindsided by impaired fertility, the quest to achieve pregnancy can become all-consuming—battering emotions, body, and pocketbook. How much are you willing to pay for a pregnancy? Jeff Opdyke addressed this issue in a column for The Wall Street Journal. Certainly, there are many who will immediately say that no […]

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Transracial Adoption from Foster Care: Why Parents Should Not Be ‘Color-Blind’

April 12, 2010

Some statistics: African American children represent 15 percent of the U.S. child population, but 32 percent of the 510,000 children in foster care (FY 2006). They also remain in foster care an average of nine months longer than white children who are adopted. About 20 percent of the black children adopted out of foster care […]

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Five Tips for Exchanging Gifts Among Birth and Adoptive Families

April 2, 2010

Over the past 17 years, we have exchanged birthday and Christmas gifts with our sons’ birth families. During the first two years after adopting our oldest son, our adoption agency served as the middleman for all correspondence exchanged. After that, we mutually decided to open our adoption and began communicating (and exchanging gifts) directly. Here […]

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Choosing an Adoption Agency – Radio Show

February 16, 2010

I’ll be a guest on the Creating a Family radio show Wednesday Feb. 17, 2010 from noon-1 p.m. Eastern Time ( 9-10 a.m. Pacific). I’ll be discussing how to choose an adoption agency with host Dawn Davenport, and the other guest, Elizabeth Falker (author of The Ultimate Insider’s Guide to Adoption). We’ll be covering agencies […]

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Intercountry, Domestic Adoptions Down Significantly

December 21, 2009

The numbers are in: International adoptions for fiscal year 2009 (10-1-08 – 9-30-09) dipped 27 percent from 2008, to 12,753. Intercountry adoptions peaked in 2004, with 22,884 children from other countries finding homes with U.S. families. The top 10 countries from which U.S. families adopted in fiscal year 2009 were: China – 3001 Ethiopia – […]

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Adoption Book 2-pack for $15

December 14, 2009

I have limited 2-packs of my books, The Adoption Decision and The Adoption Network available for $15 (this price includes U.S. shipping). This is a 30 percent discount off the lowest price Amazon is offering, plus your books will be autographed by the author (me). You can’t get that from Amazon! If you’re interested in […]

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How to Choose an Adoption Agency

December 8, 2009

I’m going to be a guest on Creating a Family radio show January 20, 2010. We’ll spend a full hour discussing how to choose an adoption agency, facilitator, or attorney. I’d love to respond to your questions about how to choose an agency, as well as to share experiences from those of you who have […]

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Do You Collect Recipes? Ask for a Subscription to Recipe Runway

December 4, 2009

This post is reprinted from my business Web site, Blogging Bistro. I don’t normally post non-adoption-related articles, but Christmas is on its way and I know many of you are looking for great gift ideas. My husband brought home the new Costco cookbook (Home Cooking THE COSTCO WAY) and I’ve been engrossed in it, slapping […]

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